Monday, August 13, 2012

Telling the Father

Oh this whole pregnancy has been fun for us.  I can't complain one bit about this pregnancy!  Yay!

David was out of town and I was home and was making plans and getting ready for David's Valentine's Day countdown gifts.  I wanted to give him a little gift each day in February leading up to Valentine's Day.  I had some planned gifts that I would send with him when he went out of town and we were also moving in February.  I think we moved on the 11th...Happy birthday to Julia :)  So I wanted to be prepared and just be able to enjoy the excitement of each gift each day but I had a feeling that I would find out yes or no before Valentine's day so I was trying to figure out how to break the news to David if I found out we were expecting. 

I had been paying close attention to my body anxiously anticipating how quick/slow I would get pregnant, but not getting my hopes up just in case we were supposed to hang tight for a bit.  I took a test one morning while David was out of town and the positive result was so exciting.  Katelyn didn't understand that my tears were happy tears and she was on the verge of crying herself because she often cries when others do.  She gets sad when they do, and it made me laugh a bit and I just gave her a big hug.

I still had over a week before Valentine's Day when I would tell David and was wondering if I would be able to keep it a secret until then.  Maybe David was paying attention to my cycle or something (seriously?!), but the day after I found out I was pregnant, he asked me over the phone if I knew if we were pregnant or not.  It caught me off guard, but I guess I convincingly responded with, "Still waiting.  We'll see in the next week or so." and he said later that I hid it well.

On Valentine's Day I put together a booklet of cards that had date night ideas for each month.  I was excited for the dates, but they were all things that I wanted to do and not so much what David wanted on most of them, so he wasn't as excited...I should have thought that through more :)  (We have been having date nights, but have almost always done different things than I brainstormed, but I will take it because we are still getting our dates in and we both like them!)  David flipped through each month and his tiredness from the long work hours...like 70 hour work weeks...and the dates that weren't quite up his ally didn't bring out the excited David that matched the giddy and excited me. Katelyn wanted to have the booklet for herself so she wasn't really helping either.  I made him look at each month because for the month of October (a good guess at the time) I broke the news to him.

Here's his response and reaction. 

Like I said...he was not thrilled by almost all the dates and probably was thinking that this was the worst gift ever and wondered why I saved if for last.  He thought this 14 days of gifts was pretty good until he got a homemade booklet of dates that I wanted to take him out on...until he got to the cute picture of Katelyn saying she was going to be a big sister.  Then he perked up a little!  He really is excited, we promise!

But seriously....Amazing Race date...he loved it.  Roller skating is always fun, David loves Chinese anything because he loves their food and ping pong,  recreating our first date sounds cheesy, but it was really a game night and ice cream cones...what's so bad about that?  Tennis and a picnic, bowling, or frisbee golf  at home would be fun but he was just tired I think :) And Katelyn was mad she couldn't have the booklet at the time and then when David was done looking through it, she didn't want it then.

She doesn't really understand what's going on with my belly and doesn't seem to know or care about the baby in there.  She can't see him and it just looks like I am getting a big belly.  She does LOVE and adore anyone her age or younger and will probably be more of a helper than I am ready for.  With her cousins Jake (11 months) and Mikilah (4 months) she loved to hold them and feed them if she could.  She got sick  while they were here so we had to keep her away from Mikilah and she had a tough time with that. I am going to have to be patient and let her help in her own special way as I see that we will have a constant battle between who is going to be this little guy's mom. She has been trying to nurse her stuffed animals and baby dolls lately.  Between watching Maggie, my parent's golden retriever, nurse her puppies and paying way too close of attention to the moms in the mother's lounge at church who come in to feed their babies while I fail to rock her to sleep during church she knows that something in her shirt feeds those toys and likes to pretend to be big like the other moms.

We are in for a good time...right?!